Several of you have asked, so here’s an update based on this post about encouraging kids to take responsibility through fewer parental reminders.
In the post titled “When Saying it Best Means Saying Nothing at All”, I wrote of the tense school mornings in our household which had built up to an overwhelming sense of frustration for myself and my husband. (If you haven’t read it yet, I encourage you to hop over to this post first so you’re up to speed.) We decided to take a new approach and keep our reminders to a minimum, putting the responsibility of getting to school on time squarely upon our kiddos’ shoulders. I’m happy to report that, overall, our mornings have been running much more smoothly. I won’t say I haven’t done any reminding because that wouldn’t be true. It’s still challenging to keep my mouth shut, but we’re making progress.
Today was an especially good morning and I’m so thankful the boys chose today as Todd and I both aren’t feeling well. (We have whatever germy sickness the boys brought home.) When I came into the kitchen this morning, both boys were up and dressed (in clean clothes!), had made their own breakfasts and packed their lunches (further inspection of said lunches revealed only minor contraband—like three fruits—which was easily resolved when I mentioned the potential diarrhea consequence). Davin even made his bed and cleaned up his room without my asking. In fact, when I greeted him this morning he proudly announced how he already had everything done…by 6:30 (this one’s an early bird lately).
Of course, this was after I awoke to loud harmonica playing and dishes banging around in the kitchen, and before I discovered the oatmeal mess left on the counter and floor. But I’m calling this a win since the attitudes were genuinely helpful and non-combative. I realize today is likely a rarity, but I’ll take it!
This new-found peacefulness has brought about cheerful, conversation-filled mornings, spurring on our goal of a close, cozy family. Isn’t that what it’s all about?
What are your tips for calm mornings? Please share in the comments, and I wish you all a PEACEFUL day with your families!